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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is my husband's family. Though, he will never admit it. It turned out okay for him and his brother since the boys were put on a pedestal due to being really talented athletes and ended up with great coaches that acted as mentors. His sisters, however, both have really struggled and never successfully been able to launch. 
The only life advice my husband has ever been given is through coaches, mentors at work, or good friends. He would never call up his parents and ask how to handle a situation. Which to me is baffling, since I grew up in such a supportive family, and has caused issues in our marriage since my husband is often the first in line to be called when any issues arises (sister got arrested lets call our son to fix it). I've never heard my husband call his family to discuss anything beyond sports, or to fix one of their problems. His parents did not even know our child had been diagnosed with autism. When I asked my husband why he didn't tell them, he responded, Why would I?
Which I get.[/quote]

Similar here.
My spouse calls my dad for advice, and his family has no idea who we are actually doing at anything - house, kids, health, sports, work, life.  You can tell them but nothing registers and they think you talk too much!

If they have an obligatory call it’s about whatever book his mom read or movies out streaming. Never about actual life or advice or how people are feeling or really doing.

My spouse however was diagnosed with high functioning autism, at age 39 when we didn’t know why he was stonewalling and hiding away from his newborn and toddler and me. We assumed it was adhd. One kid has her DX of HFA too in 4th grade. And I assume his sibling and both parents have it as well. Now that we’ve read so much about it plus parenting classes, therapy, support groups.[/quote]

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