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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At that HHI you need to have a serious talk about some of those items.

Our HHI is $600,500 and I don’t spend half of that on myself. Mostly because I work full time and have 3 kids. I never have time to do that sort of stuff for myself. No gym membership - outdoors is free. I run or walk and then have weights and peloton at home when needed.

Hair cuts - I thankfully don’t have to color my hair and it’s long and thick. So I get it cut every 4 months or so and it costs $60

Coffee - just make coffee at home and bring it in a cup

Hand bags and luxury items - if you are a SAHM when so you use these things? The only nice stuff I have is the jewelry my husband insists on getting me even when I tell him it’s not necessary [/quote]

People have different priorities and that's OK. I'm more on your end of the spectrum than OP's wife, but just because my hair and nails are au natural and I work out in my basement doesn't mean I don't have my splurges (monthly massages, trips to Disney World). My husband really hates any kind of obvious make-up or plastic surgery, which is why we're a good match. But plenty of people enjoy that stuff and life is too short for me to care.

I'll admit, every so often I realize I'm aging and buy some expensive SkinMedica product, lol.

I think it's really not interesting for us to judge whether these specific purchases were good or bad; they're morally neutral. What matters is the household budget.[/quote]

DP. I agree with this idea.  I posted on page 1, questioning OP self reported spend. It’s not really what’s normal or even the value of each purchase. I think, in accordance with the household budget, each adult should get a discretionary budget to manage as s/he wishes. That keeps value neutral as you have said, PP.

But now I am going to indulge a little bit on my petty side. I don’t spend like this on beauty items so I am not talking about my relationship,  but who are these guys who date and marry women who spend money to maintain a certain look and then are shocked that this look takes money (and time)? [/quote]

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