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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]10:41, no the information is almost never necessary, but I’m feeling like why not say of it irked me enough?

I don’t want to put an example, because the examples are too specific. But think of something like, oh I met your sil. She seems so nice. And I’m like, mmmh, she takes all the burger patties at a cook out. [/quote]

??? Think all that sh!t all you want. If you DO pass it along you'll look unhinged because ... BURGER PATTIES. No reason to go there.[/quote]

Well, like I said, the true examples aren’t trivial like burger patties. 
feel free to tell us what kind of information would you be compelled to share?
The interesting part of this is that you all seem to think that one shall be ashamed of repeating what someone else is not ashamed of doing (to you). 
I don’t believe you’re such inhibited people in real life.
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[b]The root of the problem here is that you are using a stupid example[/b]. if it was more serious than taking 3 burger patties at a cookout, than [i]you need to share a comparable example[/i]. If it was that she is a chronic shoplifter or ties her child up to the bed at night, or doesn't wash her hands after using the bathroom, tell us that, and we can give you better advice.

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The example is meant to help you be neutral.

But since you’re interested in shoplifting, the example could be: I’m going shopping with Suzanne tomorrow. - oh, be careful, one time I went shopping with her, she shoplifted. I was mortified of getting caught with her.

Or, we’re going to Mary for a playadate tomorrow. - oh, her child bites, and she does nothing about it. When I tried to redirect the child she got all pissy with me. We haven’t been back.

The problem with these two examples is that it’s easy to judge and justify your judgement. [/quote]

In those instances, it is justified to share your first-hand experiences. I actually don't care much about what she did, but what she did does MATTER. In the above two instances 1) you don't want to be caught shopping with a shoplifter! I'd be very cautious in that instance and 2) you have to be ready to protect your child! ... So if those are comparable to what she did, I would consider sharing my personal experience. But again, only sharing the facts that you KNOW. But if she's doing something the level of eating all the cookies then you can just think "gluttony" in your head and move on without saying something. [/quote]

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