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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]10:41, no the information is almost never necessary, but I’m feeling like why not say of it irked me enough?

I don’t want to put an example, because the examples are too specific. But think of something like, oh I met your sil. She seems so nice. And I’m like, mmmh, she takes all the burger patties at a cook out. [/quote]

??? Think all that sh!t all you want. If you DO pass it along you'll look unhinged because ... BURGER PATTIES. No reason to go there.[/quote]

Well, like I said, the true examples aren’t trivial like burger patties.

feel free to tell us what kind of information would you be compelled to share?

The interesting part of this is that you all seem to think that one shall be ashamed of repeating what someone else is not ashamed of doing (to you).

I don’t believe you’re such inhibited people in real life.

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Hunty, what you don't seem to be able to comprehend is that unless the "what someone else is not ashamed of doing (to you)" is criminal, by talking about it behind someone's back instead of addressing your petty squabbles directly, you're telling a story about yourself and it isn't pretty.

Nobody wants to hear about your petty picnic problems, minor whinging and whargbles, annoyances, trivial trials, etc. Nobody cares. And when it's all you ever have to say, nobody cares about what you have to say, either.

The point several of us have tried to help you get is this: if it's worth mentioning, it's worth mentioning to the people responsible for addressing it. If you're not doing that, it's just a bunch of drama-causing gossip, and it makes you look stupid and small.

If it's truly a criminal offense, or some other way you've been egregiously wronged or harmed, and you just don't know who else to turn to, then maybe talking it out with a trusted friend would be a reasonable start. But if you're straight-up naming names and spreading the word in order to shame this person behind their back, you're the jerk.

Learn it. Live it. Love it. And love yourself enough to stand up for yourself when there's an actual problem, and stand down from stupid, insecurity-driven nonsense non-issues.[/quote]

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