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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn’t want to be equal on that basis. I’d want to be better than that. 
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You don’t get it. It’s not about being “better than.” It’s getting to expand your horizons just like your spouse did. For that matter, a relationship premised forever on you being better than your spouse doesn’t sound that great. [/quote]

You don’t get it.

You are just trying to justify revenge cheating. Why?  Do whatever you want. You asked what others would do and they answered. They aren’t arguing with you over what you have done or want to do. Go ahead. Have at it. 
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It’s not “revenge” cheating in OP’s scenario. It’s just, having a (hopefully) very fun fling to clear the air and regain some agency. I realize that for most women the stars do not always align to find a ONS partner that will provide that, but if the opportunity presented itself? Nobody will fault you. And it seems potentially a more healthy response than spending the rest of your life primly insisting you would never ever stoop to such a level that your craven spouse did. [/quote]

OP called it revenge cheating.

You think it might be a healthier response. Perhaps it would be for you. Others are saying it would not be for them. Why is that a problem for you and why do you think people who disagree are too prim or don’t like sex? Why are you asking people’s opinions and then arguing when they provide it?

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I’m fine with others having other views. It seems you aren’t fine with my view though! I do maintain that to the extent you care about morality or what others think, it is true that very very few people would blame OP for a well-timed fling. If she turned it into some kind of crazy psychodrama, obviously that’s not helpful. But what seems to be the case is you and other PPs reject the notion that a woman could benefit from a night or two of fun s*x. [/quote]

Again, you seem to think that women who choose to honor their promises don’t like and/or cannot have great s*x. It’s not an either/or sort of thing.

Do what you want. No one else really cares.

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