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[quote=Anonymous]I think parent coaching for you and DH to help you handle these tough situations.

You can't really "change" a kid like this, you have to wait for him to grow up and in the meantime change the way you relate to him.

It is very humbling, but you have to toss out the typical parenting handbook and start over.

For example, if you know people coming over is a trigger, you need to account for that. I am NOT blaming you. I have an ASD/PDA kid who doesn't like company either. I give him advanced warning, make sure he is set up for food and anything else he needs and give him a hard stop as to when the guests will leave.

Is your kid PDA? Some of this sounds like equalizing behavior, albeit very extreme.

I would rethink the "vindictive" label. Your kid may be doing the best he can with the limited communication and social skills he has. This takes the patience of a saint, but look into low-demand parenting, declarative language, and At Peace Parenting. Donna Henderson, in Silver Spring, is a therapist who works with PDA kids:

https://www.drdonnahenderson.com

There is also a local FB group.

You are not alone, and there are things you can do to help have peace in your home.[/quote]

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