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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MD here. If your newborn spikes a fever at less than 4 weeks he is getting an IV, lumbar puncture, blood cultures and an admission at our ER (one of the subspec Peds EM depts in the DMV). Multiple out of town houseguests around your 2 week old is a bad decision, period. Full stop. Summer allergy season is in full swing. Our ER sounded like a TB ward today with all the coughing and sneezing. Resp droplets transmit everything, including tiny amounts of a virus that didn’t make Grandma sick. But can do so for a newborn.

New babies mark huge change in everyone’s life. Your husband can be forgiven for being excited and wanting to share this moment. But there is an opportunity to turn this around and set some boundaries. It does not have to be World War III. But there is no way in this universe or any other I would allow a crowd to roll in around around my new baby, the main reason being that I would not allow my partner to start our family life together making bad decisions. You’re a team. Be that team on this issue. [/quote]

+1000

My MIL insisted she be IN THE ROOM when my DS was born—she travelled from hundreds of miles away, wreaked havoc in the delivery room and then went home and rearranged everything, including my underwear drawer. She dragged a bunch of moldy old crocheted dolls my long dead grandmother had maybe made about 40 years ago from a bag that was stored god knows where and built a pyramid on our dining room table with them. Took down the "Welcome home baby!" sign that I had made and then proceeded to insert herself in EVERYTHING my wife and I tried to do—set up the pack and play for the first time, give the baby her first bath, share a special meal with my wife... she insisted on rubbing my wife's feet and blasting what she regarded as tranquil music on her ipad while my wife desperately tried to nap when we finally got the baby down. I even caught her going into our bedroom where the baby was napping to jiggle his pack and play so she could get a nice photo of him rolling over on her ipad.

And what happened on his fourth day, when he went to the pediatrician for his first checkup? He spiked a fever of 100.4. He got admitted, got an IV, got a spinal tap and then noone but my wife and I could see him for a week. So, that sucked for my FIL who had come with a plan to stay at a hotel and just come for brief visits. And my parents who were also staying at a hotel.

But at least she got to see the baby when he was born. Selfish hag.[/quote]

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