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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was accused of being cheap once because I wanted separate checks at dinner. I’m not sure how splitting a check would have been better.[/quote]

I once went out with a group of women where we each ordered an entree and I ordered 2-3 appetizers. Every single person ate the appetizers. When the bill came, one women split the bill and charged only me for the appetizers. I remember having a bbq or some gathering a week later and I didn’t invite the woman who stuck me with paying for the appetizers. It was less about the money and more about the principle. Other women said they ate the appetizers and would chip in. I thought it was ridiculous. Never had that happen in my 40 years.

I have gone out to eat in groups since high school. The person who says they didn’t eat the shrimp appetizer or whatever is annoying.[/quote]

Did you ask them if they wanted appetizers, or did you just order? [/quote]

I didn’t ask if they wanted to share and split the cost if that is what you are asking.

I have gone out to eat for decades and that was the first time anyone has done that. I would only have ordered one for myself if not sharing with others. I can’t eat 3 appetizers by myself.

It was not an expensive place. I want to say everyone paid $20 and then I paid $50. [/quote]

This is so weird. Why would you order appetizers without asking people if they want to share? The usual implication is that if you order it and you offer it to others, you are still paying. Did you expect everyone to chip $2 for eating a shrimp? Odd. [/quote]

+1, in that situation I would just pay for the appetizers (and not order them if I didn't want to pay). Also PP screwed things up by ordering 3 appetizers instead of an entree like everyone else. She ordered more than twice as much food than everyone else, but no entree for herself. The person who split check probably felt it was unfair to make everyone else pay for the PP's weird ordering choices.

The PP handled that poorly and then "punished" the woman who split the check by excluding her from an invite. Ridiculous.[/quote]

I have to wonder if the PP gave anyone the option of which apps to order. If she picked them then maybe they weren’t what the others would have chosen had they known they were going to pay for them. If you order food without input and then offer some, it seems like you chose to buy them and are sharing.

That said I am so glad I’m at an age where we all just split evenly (or one person picks up dinner this time and we get dinner the next). I have one friend who tends to order more drinks than me, but I like to get a dessert and sometimes an app I want, so I figure it all evens out. If I was stressed about a bill then I just wouldn’t go because I couldn’t afford it and/or am not a good match as a dining companion if there is a huge discrepancy in ordering.

An awkward story I’ll share — years ago in my 20s I went out to dinner with a big group (like 15-20 people, which is already a server’s nightmare I know). We all split a bunch of food and pitchers of drinks. One girl out of everyone insisted on a separate bill just for what she had ordered. You could tell it was a huge pain for the server (this was way back before Venmo and apps to more easily calculate things).

The rest of us just handed over cards and told her to split things evenly including the automatic gratuity that was added.

The amount we all ended up owing … was within pennies of what the separate check girl had paid. So all that awkwardness and she still paid the same! She looked cheap and didn’t save a dime. She is also stingy in so many other ways too.[/quote]

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