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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like this is a you issue. Things should not be tit for tat OP. I don't expect reciprocity for my generosity.[/quote]

This.

Also, "generosity" cannot be measured in absolute terms because not everyone has the same amount to give. If a billionaire treats you to a $200/plate dinner, are they more "generous" than your school teacher friend who buys you a coffee? No, the teacher is spending much bigger percentage of her overall wealth on you than the billionaire. To the billionaire, that dinner is nothing.

A friend on a budget has to be careful about what they spend. That's what it means to be on a budget. In that context, generous could mean dedicating space in their budget to pay for themselves when they hang out with you, like going to a festival or a concert with you and buying their own ticket and food. Because the alternative for them is to say "no I can't" because they can't allocate the money, but they are choosing to make space in their budget to do things with you that you enjoy.

I've never been upset that a friend isn't hosting me or paying my way for anything. I have been frustrated if a friend is asking a lot of me and acts entitled to it, but that could take the form of expecting me to wait an hour for them when we go out because they are always late, or always canceling on me last minute, or something like that. It's rarely about money. I just don't think money is something that should come between friends if you do it right.[/quote]

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