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[quote=Anonymous]You are responding to the threats your mind has created such as:

If he quits sports he'll become a couch potato/not have good activities for college/lose friends.

If he is late to school he'll never be responsible.

If he skips the recital he won't have a good relationship with his sister or we won't be a close family, etc.

You need to rewrite those stories into something less threatening to you. Like if he skips school today, he can catch up on his project, period. That's it. It's not determining his whole future.

That's just an example; you can make school mandatory but I might not have in that situation. In a similar situation, I let my child go late to school, which is not something I ever could have pictured doing a few years ago, but what it did was make them feel heard when they were struggling and they've gone to school on time since. Nothing catastrophic happened. I think we tend to go to the worst case scenario. It can be very helpful to tell yourself the neutral scenario (this is simply one missed day).

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