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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with everyone's comments on the academic stuff and concerns about bullying.

But I need to add something as a parent of an athlete who has made plenty of mistakes myself: you need to let tennis go. Saying you won't let him forfeit and DH yelled at him after a match that he won? This is crazy. You are putting so much pressure on him to be a tennis player. It doesn't matter how good he is. He does not want to be a tennis player and he is telling you so. Let it go. You are choosing his potential success at tennis over your relationship with him and his potential success at life. I know you just want the best for him, but you're setting up a situation where to him it feels like his standing in the family and your love for him is based on whether or not he succeeds at tennis.

He's intentionally pulling away from that and you're failing his test by showing that your love is indeed conditional based on his success at tennis. This is hard to do, but there are good resources online to help yourself separate from all that as a parent- I like Coach Rebecca from Complete Performance and Coach Bre. Both have some good articles to help you unwind where you are with a sport vs. where your kid is.[/quote]

I believe there are two weeks of tennis left. We are not planning to sign him up.

I asked about our summer and at this point, [b]he doesn’t want to do anything[/b]. He said he would like to take some friends to our beach house. [/quote]

You're not listening to him.

He told you exactly what he wants to do this summer:  bum around and chill with friends.  Which, at 13/14 is perfectly normal, acceptable and healthy[/quote]

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