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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lack of communication or ability to communicate.  Also, inability to have empathy.[/quote]

This. [/quote]

This was us for many years.  Gottman helped us enormously.  [/quote]

Did you go to therapy or is this something you can DIY with a book? Thanks for the suggestion. [/quote]

We went to a Gottman therapist. DH hated it but it literally saved our marriage and he realizes that now. He was raised by cold, emotionless parents but his mother is also incredibly emotionally needy (very weird). DH needed an impartial party to help him see that he was completely shut done emotionally and refusing to acknowledge any of my emotional needs. The therapist also helped us see several communication dynamics we replayed over and over due to our communication styles. It really shifted things for us. I’m a big proponent of books but it was the therapist observing our communication and interactions that helped. We couldn’t see it ourselves in the moment. [/quote]

That’s good for you both.

Was any autism at play in him or his mother or just this emotional neglect from childhood from other reasons?[/quote]

Perceptive question! He and his mother both have ADHD. Untreated[/quote]

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