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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Move to the next level. You have been there done that in academia. It's a great big world out there, and in a couple years I think you will be surprised that you had even considered staying. We all get stuck competing in tournaments (human nature) while rarely examining whether this is the tournament in which we even want to compete. Using some counterfactual visualization may be helpful. If you had a fulfilling life living abroad as your husband rockets forward in his career, would you give it up to have a tenured professorship, which you had already experienced before? [/quote] What? This is silly to the point of being stupid. There is no next level. She’s exactly where she wants to be and will never find this level of flexibility and intellectual freedom anywhere else. [b]It simply doesn’t exist[/b]. I don’t understand “why” her husband needs to move up in his career. It sounds like he’s in a good place as is. The other option is for the husband to move abroad on his own and the family to schedule frequent visits to each other. [/quote] It certainly does exist, but for most of us it is beyond practical imagination. Don't be bitter about it--be happy for her. Did Grace Kelly experience a sort of next level when she retired from acting at 26 to become Princess of Monaco? I dare say yes. That is an extreme example to prove a point: There is more out there than many of us will ever see. Lots of women would have killed to have Grace Kelly's career, and the idea that she would "retire" in her prime must have seemed unfathomable. Except to her.[/quote]
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