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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm currently about to have a baby and the thing that's been most annoying to me is the way it's become normalized to let anxiety drive your decisions.  I don't have TikTok and don't watch instagram reels.  A lot of my friends who are new moms do and I see it creating SO much anxiety to the point where I worry they will adjudge me a bad parent for just not doing that, or not worrying about a particular issue that they view as a BIG DEAL because they watched something on the internet that's poorly sourced and designed to attract attention/manipulate the algorithm.  [/quote]

Oh it does not stop, either. It's particularly intense when you are pregnant and have a baby, because people will talk to you about stuff like formula feeding or tummy time like it's a life or death issue. I was in a moms group when my baby was an infant where people freaked out about everything. There was a woman there who was obsessed with how much time her kid spent in a carseat and seemed to think if her child was in a carseat for more than 20 minutes, his muscles would atrophy and he'd never learn to crawl, because she'd read something about "container babies" who didn't develop gross motor skills because they spent all day in car seats or infant seats. Once I showed up to group with my baby in a car seat and she lectured me about it for like 10 minutes. I was like "it's raining, I drove, the baby is asleep, I'm not getting her up." It was nuts.

But it doesn't end. There are a LOT of high anxiety parents out there and they work very hard to try and foist their anxiety onto you. Cosleeping, potty training, academic milestones, type of preschool environment, choice of school, sports and activities, kid friendships, anything safety related, food (oh god, the intensity of anxious parents around food, I swear so many of these people have full blown eating disorders they are just passing onto their children).

I love being a mom but one of the worst parts is dealing with other parents. I can spend all day with my kids and feel tired but happy and satisfied. Meanwhile 1 hour with certain other parents making small talk while our kids "entertain each other" and I need to go home and I just feel jumpy and stressed for the rest of the day because they are always coming up with some new thing to stress about and then telling me ALL about it.[/quote]

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