Anonymous wrote:Hangin out with the dad crowd + kids is so much more relaxing/fun. Anytime I'm with my wife and a group of mothers they're all trying to one up eachother and share anxieties it's awful.
Anonymous wrote:“Baby led weaning.” It’s called purées and small bites of food.
“Baby wearing.” I don’t know about you, but my back was in bad shape after wearing my second kid around for a year.
Oh crap potty training.
And as others have mentioned, gentle parenting.
My kids were born in 2018 and 2021.
Anonymous wrote:I'm currently about to have a baby and the thing that's been most annoying to me is the way it's become normalized to let anxiety drive your decisions. I don't have TikTok and don't watch instagram reels. A lot of my friends who are new moms do and I see it creating SO much anxiety to the point where I worry they will adjudge me a bad parent for just not doing that, or not worrying about a particular issue that they view as a BIG DEAL because they watched something on the internet that's poorly sourced and designed to attract attention/manipulate the algorithm.
Anonymous wrote:I'm currently about to have a baby and the thing that's been most annoying to me is the way it's become normalized to let anxiety drive your decisions. I don't have TikTok and don't watch instagram reels. A lot of my friends who are new moms do and I see it creating SO much anxiety to the point where I worry they will adjudge me a bad parent for just not doing that, or not worrying about a particular issue that they view as a BIG DEAL because they watched something on the internet that's poorly sourced and designed to attract attention/manipulate the algorithm.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Two kids, 2021 & 2023, and top two annoyances already mentioned
Gentle parenting! Especially all the gifters who will take your money for overpriced consultations and scripts of what you should say to your kid. These scrips are usually waaaaay too long & ridiculous to have an impact. The Visible Child fb group is, imo, the worst embodiment of this outlook.
The surface level conversation about autism and neurodivergance that celebrates the quirky stuff but doesn't grapple with the reality.
The ASD stuff is fascinating! That wasn't a thing at all a decade ago. I mean, obviously it was, but not talked about.
What I remember everyone having was food allergies. Clearly some kids do have life and death food allergies, but the kid who may get the faintest of rash from a particular food had equally vocal parents. That still a thing?
One thing that changed with allergies is there was a period of time where peds advised to wait til 2 to introduce allergens and now they say introduce them as soon as your baby can eat solids. What else is generally accepted as true but is actually totally false?
Good example of ridiculous advice by the """experts"""" which was passed off with zero evidence.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Two kids, 2021 & 2023, and top two annoyances already mentioned
Gentle parenting! Especially all the gifters who will take your money for overpriced consultations and scripts of what you should say to your kid. These scrips are usually waaaaay too long & ridiculous to have an impact. The Visible Child fb group is, imo, the worst embodiment of this outlook.
The surface level conversation about autism and neurodivergance that celebrates the quirky stuff but doesn't grapple with the reality.
The ASD stuff is fascinating! That wasn't a thing at all a decade ago. I mean, obviously it was, but not talked about.
What I remember everyone having was food allergies. Clearly some kids do have life and death food allergies, but the kid who may get the faintest of rash from a particular food had equally vocal parents. That still a thing?
One thing that changed with allergies is there was a period of time where peds advised to wait til 2 to introduce allergens and now they say introduce them as soon as your baby can eat solids. What else is generally accepted as true but is actually totally false?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Solid Starts and baby led weaning (AKA bragging about feeding choking hazards with zero studies to prove there are long term benefits)
Gentle parenting
maybe i'm doing solid starts wrong-- but isn't the point for me to learn how to cut/prep the food? My mother and mother in law always think i'm being over the top anxious as I follow it religiously as they would be happy to give much bigger chunks of choking hazard and feed my one year old nuts/seeds/etc?
The main thing I don’t like about solid starts and baby led weaning (and yes, I have the app and read the food prep for maybe 100 foods) is that it instructs you to give food in big pieces. It’s like they think all 6-12 month olds have zero teeth. Guess what: if you give an 8 month old baby with teeth a whole strawberry or a quarter of an avocado (those as exactly their suggestions for serving), they can break off massive pieces with their teeth and choke. I know a child who did actually choke on a strawberry this way. Parents had to do CPR and call an ambulance. They were huge Solid Starts fans until that. My own daughter bit off huge, unsafe chunks of so many foods they recommended serving whole before I realize what total lunacy it was and went to soft foods and purées like sane previous generations.
By age 2 you cannot tell one bit who did baby led weaning or purées. My daughter had perfectly spaced teeth, zero picky preferences, and a great palate. I’m angry it’s pitched like fact when it’s just an unsafe fad.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Two kids, 2021 & 2023, and top two annoyances already mentioned
Gentle parenting! Especially all the gifters who will take your money for overpriced consultations and scripts of what you should say to your kid. These scrips are usually waaaaay too long & ridiculous to have an impact. The Visible Child fb group is, imo, the worst embodiment of this outlook.
The surface level conversation about autism and neurodivergance that celebrates the quirky stuff but doesn't grapple with the reality.
The ASD stuff is fascinating! That wasn't a thing at all a decade ago. I mean, obviously it was, but not talked about.
What I remember everyone having was food allergies. Clearly some kids do have life and death food allergies, but the kid who may get the faintest of rash from a particular food had equally vocal parents. That still a thing?