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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am kind of getting sick and tired of all these women complaining about taking the kids to birthdays, to sports etc..... My ex-wife is busier with yearly plastic surgery and rotating boyfriends than taking care of our kids. She gladly handed over full custody to me and I love it. She still sees our kids; she does her best to get involved and I think it's just fine. The kids love both of us. They are dads who step up and they don't complain as much as some of the women here do.[/quote]

That's great. I don't doubt that it's a nongendered issue, and there are other dads like you who are the default parents. I'm a mom who does 95% of all the actual parenting (doctors, dentists, school conferences, driving to and from all activities, attending games, making sure homework gets done). I don't receive any child support. I pay for 100% of all health insurance, activities, clothes, sports equipment, everything.   I'm okay with all of that. The only time I complain is when my ex (and his new wife) push for parenting time but then tell our kid he can't go participate in a school concert that is required for a music class or can't play a team sport because they don't want to drive him to practices or allow me to drive him to practices or even allow me to arrange a carpool on their time.  For years, ex had his new wife pick up our kid from school and take him to their house, then she'd leave him home unattended in a town 30 minutes away from his school, friends, and sports and they were unconcerned that he was spending his time on Snapchat or Roblox chatrooms all afternoon and evening. At 11 years old, he called me from a random town an hour from my house because he got on the train alone to see how far he could go, then realized he was lost with no money. They had no idea he was missing, and when they learned what had happened, they didn't understand why I was upset. This all unfolded when he would have liked to be at his team's soccer practice that they wouldn't take him to, let me take him to, or let me arrange a carpool or hired driver (which I offered so that I wasn't infringing on their time). It's been a mess. Kid is old enough now that he pushes back and tells his dad he's playing sports with his friends and he's not going to his house anymore if can't support him. This has worked because I'm not in the middle of it anymore.   But the early years, when he insisted on more parenting time and then dumped him on his new wife, who ignored him, and kept him for his friends and sports, were a disaster for our kid. It will be hard for them to move past all the resentment. [/quote]

You sound like an equal problem and is your income higher?  If your income is much higher you wouldn't get child support.  It's not the wife's job to babysit your kid.  Your 11 year old leaving the house is a serious issue, as a parent what did you do about it? [/quote]

I make less than he does but I do fine.  I let him lie about his current income and didn't push for any supporting documents as part of a global settlement.  He and his wife live in a multimillion dollar house, drive luxury cars, and go on annual international vacations.  Money is very low on the issue list.  The train incident issue was serious.  The parenting issues resolved overtime as our kid is now old enough to self-advocate.  [/quote]

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