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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some women's bodies don't bounce back from childbearing as some other women's bodies do.

Most regular working women don't have the multiple hours per day to put into fitness routines and cooking super clean healthy meals, even if her children and husband would eat that food if she did.

[b]How much of the housekeeping and life management are you doing, OP? How much of the childcare and shuttling to activities are you doing? How much shopping and cooking? How much time are you giving her to sleep, to engage in fitness, etc?[/b]

There are seasons to life, OP. Sounds like you have most of what makes a very good marriage and your wife's body paid the price to give you two beautiful children.

So yeah, you can be sad that youth has passed you by and you and your wife aren't hotties anymore, but please don't expect an outpouring of sympathy. [/quote]

We have a live-in nanny/housekeeper and I do my fair share of chores/childcare. We both exercise regularly. I think it comes down to eating too much. Or not cutting back with metabolism being slower. [/quote]
If she exercises regularly, then she's "not letting herself go".  I can see being annoyed if she's not trying. Likely her hormones are causing it.  You have no idea what women go through to bear children and dthen peri-menopause/menopause.  Grow up and care about the important things. [/quote]

I hear the menopause argument from my overweight (200+ pounds) perimenopausal wife. My question is why don't ALl women have significant weight problems post-menopause.[/quote]

Because some women sail through peri-menopause and post menopause with barely a symptom, and some women have symptoms that debilitate their health. In particular, many women suffer chronic insomnia for years during this period of life - and chronic insomnia drives elevated cortisol which messes up the body's ability to regulate hunger, turn food into energy, build muscle versus storing energy into fat cells, etc.

Nutritional science is pretty complex, it is NOT CICO, as I've posted above. The cascade of hormones that women go through at the change of life can totally mess up their body's energy use/storage functions, and can drive overeating.

She is not weak or lazy, she is being controlled by the same cascade of hormones that in many cases in a different stage of life caused her to marry some shallow a-hole so she could have kids.

My bet is on OP to dump his 'frumpy' wife for a younger and hotter version by the time the kids are teens.[/quote]

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