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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pp again. I can’t imagine going on a date who couldn’t buy me a cup of coffee. I would be fine with buying my own coffee.

I went to college and grad school with wealthy students so I never hung out with any guys who wouldn’t buy me dinner. DH was not wealthy but also bought me dinner all the time with the little money he did have. He now earns a seven figure income.

I didn’t know or associate with guys who would not buy dinner on a date. How cheap!![/quote]

There's nothing wrong with not being interested in a walking date. It is wrong to judge someone as 'cheap' for rejecting the "pay to play" paradigm of traditional dating.

You have also contradicted yourself. You are not fine buying your own cup of coffee. You expect men to pay even, in your own words, when they had little money (I have no idea what your DH's currently makes has to do with anything). Again, it's fine if a walking date isn't your thing but don't think you aren't charging an access fee.[/quote]

I have been with Dh for over 20 years. I had a lot of suitors before him. If I accepted what I considered a true date, I’m pretty sure it was always dinner. There were other guys who I met and wanted to hang out we may have hung out in a group. I did not consider them dates and don’t remember what we did and I likely always paid for myself. If a guy had the intent and showed he liked me, I would have accepted and I got ready.

I honestly probably would not have wanted to go on a coffeee date and never have. But then again, I didn’t cook so I would have preferred to meet up to eat. This goes for dates and friends too. I always went out to eat with friends.

I have always attracted [b]gentlemen[/b] type men. I didn’t hang out with or associate with guys who tried to take me home from a club or try to take me on a coffee date and definitely not a walking date.[/quote]

Men who do not want to 'pay to play' are not gentlemen?  That's exactly what you're saying. That would include your BIL and your friend's brother.

Again, if walking and/or coffee doesn't meet your dating bar, that's fine. It certainly would weed out incompatible prospects. You shouldn't judge those whose preferences are different. You should also be more open to the idea that people with different preferences can all be right.[/quote]

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