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As a European, I will never understand how Americans put children's sports over an adult's major professional accomplishment. Actually, scratch that. It's not just Europeans. It's everyone in the world, probably. I have East Asians in my family, and they would prioritize the work milestone. I have colleagues from the Indian subcontinent. They would prioritize the work milestone too.

I would be extremely hurt and offended if my husband reacted that way. It would actually be a form of deep betrayal. But then my husband is also European and would never make that mistake.

We have markedly different values, don't we? Fascinating.[/quote]

I would agree if OP were actually receiving an award on the same night for her project. This is just a dinner to celebrate finishing the project. Dinner can be rescheduled. Coaching a team to the playoffs is also a professional/personal accomplishment, and it is actually happening on that night.[/quote]

This is where I come out.  OP isn't getting an award, it isn't an event that is important to her professional career.  She finished a big project, and scheduled a celebratory dinner with her spouse.  It can be rescheduled, even if it has to be a month out to get reservations at the same place.

Also, what the European overlooks is that Op's husband isn't just attending their kids' playoff game.  He's the coach - he made a commitment to the team, the other coaches, and his own kids.  Yes, there are plenty of valid reasons that he couldn't make the game (including, for example, that OP has a previously scheduled work obligation and it's important for him to be there).  But "my wife was really looking forward to our fancy date night isn't a good reason to skip.

I suppose that part of the "markedly different values"  we have is that we Americans believe in honoring our commitments, even at the cost of rescheduling personal events.  That is fascinating, that you believe a "European" value is just bailing on your obligations when there's something else you'd rather do.  Surprised you'd come out and admit that, but OK.  [/quote]

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