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[quote=DarleneS]I wanted to share what I have lived in due to my birth parents adopting two girls. It brought curses on our family which is being passed down and will continue to be passed down generations. They did this in 1977. They have since grown up, had 4 children between them, none with daddys, although they hae both had divorces and live-ins, fights, etc, had their children removed from the for abuse, dui's, arrested with their picture on the front page of the newspaper, etc while my parents paid to get them out of trouble, pay for them houses, took care of their children, and drained my parents dry of their hard earned savings. My parents are now retired and have almost nothing. They should have thousands and thousands in the bank. Their nerves are shot. The girls and their kids fight amongst themselves calling my parents at 2am to tell them how one of them spilled table salt on the other ones couch. My mother has RA, and high blood pressure, my daddy has horrible nerves and high blood pressure. Yes, this makes me mad. I never did any of this. Why? Because I have a bond with my parents. They are my biological parents. God put a bond there. Only He can make it. You can't place a bond there with paper and changing someone's name to yours. I've lived though proof of this. The Bible talks about families passing down curses from generation to generation. When you adopt, you have no idea what curses you are bringing in. It just so happened my parents brought in the curse of drug addicts, alcoholics, and murderers. We will now have to deal with this for the rest of our lives. There's not enough room on here to share the experiences of my family on here. None of which are good. None. I have no good memories of my childhood after the day they came. I never again felt it was my home. When you adopt, that child has a 100% chance of something being wrong in their life or they wouldnt be up for adoption. This means you will have to pull a whole lot of attention away from the child God hand-picked for you to give to someone else's child. I cannot tell how this makes you feel. To bring in a complete stranger off the street, give them the same last name you have, allow them you call your parents momma and daddy, hear them tell that stranger they love them the same as they love you (which means you arent special to them any longer. You are now no more special to your momma and daddy than a stranger's child walking down the road that youve never met.) But you have to be excited and act like your happy that the new sister or brother is there or your are jealous. No one ever stops to think of what the birth child goes through. I could talk for a long time about this. But if you loev your birth child at all, plain and simple, dont do it. Be happy with God has gien you. IF HE wants you to have more, trust Him to work it out. Please Please Please Please Please trust me. I'm 44 and still have nightmare over this. And still have bad nerves over this. If I could only help one birth child, typing all of this is worth it. If you have any questions, I will be happy to answer them. Darlene[/quote]

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