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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PTAs are cliquish but it’s because the want you to help. Once you volunteer and spend endless amounts of your free time, you can be part of the clique too.  Truth![/quote]

Ever wonder why so many parents on the PTA are just so similar to each other? Similar home set ups, often similar jobs if they work. Similar backgrounds. Similar kids with similar interests.

All the PTA parents at our school have two-parent families, no SN kids. Their kids are all the kind with easy personalities, often athletic (and they all get to know each other from their kids doing the same sports). They are more likely to have nannies or grandparents helping them. They are also almost universally at a certain income level or higher.

Not all parents have the same amount of free time to give. Some of us have SN kids who require a lot of emotional work and we don't have a ton left at the end of the day. Some of us have fewer helping hands at home, and fewer resources to hire more hands. We would like to be involved at school and volunteer a few times a year, go to PTA meetings when we can so we are in the loop and know what is going on. And when the PTA clique acts like what we have to offer is not enough, when they act like martyrs because they "do everything" and other parents aren't sufficiently committed, we get sick of it because what they don't realize is that what I'm offering is the absolute max of what I have to give. It's actually a sign of my high commitment to my kids and the school that I'm even offering this much. And when it is sneered at by some UMC mom with a flexible job, a nanny for her younger kids, a supportive spouse, well-adjusted kids with no SNs, etc., it pisses me off. They act like martyrs but the only reason they even CAN martyr themselves to the PTA is because they have way more bandwidth than most of the other parents at the school.

A lot of PTA parents need to get over themselves and stop assuming everyone is exactly like them and if someone can't devote 20 hours a week to PTA duties, they must be lazy freeloaders.[/quote]

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