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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reasonable discussions just don’t happen with emotionally dysregulated or untreated mentally disordered people.

Stop trying that or suggesting that. They don’t care about your feelings, nor understand them, nor care to.

As our PhD therapist, who specializes in aspergers, said: Do not accommodate dysfunction (and certainly not abuse)[/quote]

Honest question, what does your therapist say to do?  Grey rock?  The boundaries suggested above?[/quote]

Yes grey rock, be positive, join support groups, focus on your own friends and kids and work, take vacations with others, run the house as if a single mom with sitters and Nannie’s and cleaners, don’t ask him for anything, disclose what yours going through to close friends & family, stay social with the kids with normal families and others. Try communicating more via email or text so his slow processing speed can cope. [/quote]

I will do this but it seems to really reward the maladjusted person.  I handle it all without asking much. I don’t call them out on abusive BS.  They just sit around and relax?  I’m not sure i have a better choice.[/quote]

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