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[quote=Anonymous]I just went through this except for my DD went off to college without actually enrolling, got pregnant, and almost died.

It was scary, it took a lot of time, but now she’s working full time, and school full time(her choice tuition is covered.)

I flew down their packed up her stuff, let her stay with a relative until she healed, and handled the whole situation with pure kindness because she was going through a lot mentally/physically even though their were SO many lies. Once she was able to come up I got her into therapy, she tested out of her freshman year (CLEP) so she was back on track, and she got a year long internship that promoted her into a full time role before finishing her program. I told her this would only work if there were no more lies between us, and how I handled the situation is proof that I can be trusted further.* Silly I know but that was one of the biggest hurdles, she should’ve told us about everything going on at school because we could’ve helped her sooner and it almost cost her life.

I held her hand through majority of it:

-I applied with her to jobs I thought she’d be a great fit for.

-I really held her hand during the college enrollment process because she required a ton of extra paperwork, and not going through traditional processes.

-I sat down with her to help her find a therapist she’d like talking to in those moments she wouldn’t want to talk to me going forward. And honestly this is my shortcoming there are some things she did I can’t talk to her about/help her through.

- Financially we have meeting weekly going over what was spent/saved and what goals she has in regards to a car/housing when she moves back on campus. We also touch on scholarship/grant progress.

Some kids need it more than others, I give her freedom by letting her proceed with the above tasks now herself. She’s made a mistake here or there but nothing that she can’t recover from.

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