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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I just saw this thread and thought "did I start this thread?"

My DD started a good university in fall of 2022, large respectable public school (think ranked in the 50-75 range.) She also had a respectable SAT score which got her a scholarship too. We were so proud of her, she was so proud of herself. But, she was product of mcps during covid, when they were handing out A's. We knew it was going to be touch and go, but were hoping for the best. She had accommodations (many schools do, for extra test time and private test taking place) but she took advantage of none. DH and I made decision of no hand holding.

She started school and had below average first semester. 1 A, 1 B, 1 C, and 1 D (of course the D was in a four credit class and the A was in a one credit class). She also dropped one class. She simply wasn't turning in the work. Came home, said she would try harder second semester.

She got sick early second semester and was out for a week and just blew off everything from there. Was completely overwhelmed, came home. I had her on find my friends and she literally would be in her dorm all weekend. She did have friends, by the way, and even joined a university dance team.

Came home. Said to her you need to either get a full time job, or go p/t to MC and work part time. During the summer of 2023, she just regrouped, and got a full time job at a summer day camp. She loved it. It got her outside and with her peers. Come fall, she registered for MC, and got a part time job. No car for her. She busses to work and school when I can't drive her, and she kind of likes the bus. 
Also, we are making her pay for MC. If she gets a B or above, we reimburse her. First semester she got an A and a D. She insists she still wants to try for a four year degree. 
Everything is OK now, she is meeting some people at p/t work and now has a boyfriend, which has really helped her mental health. 
Anyway, it's not the end of the world. Our DD also has add and mild depression. She is happier when she is busy, I think college was wayyyyy too much free time. Good luck. [/quote]

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