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[quote=Anonymous]Yep. And I expect a decent attitude, so I get buy in. Once kids were in high school, I would come up with a list of 4 options/ destinations DH and I were excited about. And then we had family ranked choice voting.  Kicked out everyone’s last choice and then the votes decided.  Also, everyone in the family gets to choose a couple of (reasonable) activities for the family. We did a street art class in Paris with one kid, and a chocolate food tour with another. BUT, kids activities are scheduled later in the trip, and if you have a crappy attitude about someone else’s activity, I will cancel yours.

And high school kids, can’t hide in the hotel all day. But, when people start flagging, they can peel off and have some downtime. And, my kids are sensible and I trust them. So, in safe cities/ countries they can venture out together during the day and do something different than DH and I.  Or walk to a nearby cafe for dinner while DH and I do something more formal.

Basically, once you have teens, you will almost always get much better results (in everything, not just travel) if  you give them some control (or the illusion of control) and let them have some input, listen to their (constructive) suggestions.

So no— kids do not get to veto travel. But, as they get older they do get buy in and choices.  I get the parents make decisions model. But, we ideally would have traveled with teens for 6-7 years. COVID cut that short.  So, the trips should be something they will enjoy too. I turn 50 this year and my kids are college sophomores and seniors. The travel together phase is winding down with different college schedules, summer commitments, different breaks, etc. and, now the kids are doing college study abroad and DH and I are starting to plan trips that the kids were not as interested in.

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