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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]

He may need to get his hearing checked.

That's not snark, it's what happens when we age.

Do you want to hear something wild? 
Go to YouTube and play the sounds that your teenagers can hear, but you and your husband will be all but deaf to... it's crazy. 
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It’s been going on since his 20s. It’s not hearing loss.

This is very common in ADHD, and I’m not one of the DCUM posters who thinks everything is ADHD or autism.

NP[/quote]

My DH was diagnosed with ADHd and autism as an adult after all sorts of other medical testing- starting with hearing tests and ending with complete neuro work ups because at one point the doctors even suspected early dementia.

The clue for me in what OP is saying is that the DH is not loud or interrupting with people he doesn’t know well (my DH is very insecure and cautious around people he isn’t comfortable with) and is very hurt and bewildered when presented with recaps of his behavior or its impact on others. My DH’s HFA presents as pontificating or perseverating loudly with people he knows, and sometimes repeating stories or opinions and interrupting because he’s following a bit of a social script he’s written for himself to fit in. If he has any past success at all with an opinion or thought in the past, he will repeat it whenever it’s even vaguely contextual forevermore.

The interrupting/impulsivity in conversation and the hurt when faced with his own behavior is, in my DH’s case, due to ADHD. ADHD also comes with rejection sensitive dysphoria, so that makes gentle corrections major flash points in our relationship.

Good luck, OP. While ADHD medication has improved DH’s focus at work, it hasn’t helped the rest of his life. These are ingrained habits and coping mechanisms that probably could be altered with attentive help if your DH was a child, but it takes a very self-aware and motivated adult to be willing to do that work.[/quote]

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