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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All these posts saying be confrontation or give an ultimatum doesn't work if you are fundamentally not a confrontational person and the MIL is. You have to outsmart your MIL by doing things she won't like then playing dumb. And by saying no intimate relations in your house with your husband until the MIL is gone because it makes your feel uncomfortable. [/quote]

No you need to learn how to stand up to a bully. There is a huge difference between thriving and enjoying conflict and being so avoidant of it that you become a victim in your own home. Seek to gain the skills to live in the middle, stand up for yourself but don’t become a monster like your MIL. A therapist or activity that gives you and your husband more confidence might also work. Kick boxing is a start, not that you’ll use it on your MIL but it can make you feel more powerful.

Keep in mind that old people, especially women, use whatever tactic works for them. Your MIL has learned that yelling, screaming and fit throwing works on you and her son. She’ll keep doing this until you say no and hold firm. Remind yourself how ridiculous she is when she Carrie’s on like that, treat her like the toddler she is emulating, ..I would actually laugh in her face. [/quote]

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