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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Maybe I misunderstood my husband’s friends in various fields of law and tech. They seem to have 5-6 months of paid leave (which they all take) then work from home and continue to pump and bond with their babies. The lawyers at my daughters daycare do not miss events and have flexibility. Again they are in all different fields of law (big law, midsize law, in house, government). This post is just a vent post I understand that it is on me to course correct and I will end doing so. Just stinks to train for so long and have nothing to show for it.

I just seems that other white collar jobs have become more flexible and family friendly while medicine falls behind. That’s okay but I think if I understood that beforehand I would have made different choices. [/quote]
OP, I think you are selectively seeing what you want to see. Yes, law and tech are more conducive to WFH and pumping. But people in those fields are working during the day, not bonding with their babies. Sure, lack of commute gives them a few more hours in the day. And lack of shift work likely means they can block their calendar to attend a daycare event. But you aren't seeing their long, unpredictable hours. You aren't seeing their travel. You aren't seeing the emails that are blowing up their inbox while they are attending those daycare events.

If you have a professional job, you have demands on your time that seep into your personal life. Most physicians I know actually have the best balance, because most of their job doesn't come home with them.

If you want to make a career change, make one. All highly-educated parents (especially moms) have to make trade-offs between their personal life and maximizing their education/training. And no, absolutely not, physicians aren't special among graduate degree holders in terms of how hard they study, how long they train, how difficult it is, etc. Everyone who is in a demanding jobs worked and studied hard to get there...and some still decide to step back or use their training/knowledge/experience in different ways. Once you get it out of your head that you somehow are uniquely challenged work-life balance-wise and that somehow you worked/trained/studied harder/longer to get where you are, you will be able to see how many options you truly have.[/quote]

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