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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I loved parenting, even to the point where I cared for my sister's kids and my best friend's kid for a few years so I could continue to stay home with my own kids until they were in elementary school.  I started my career after that.

I don't personally know how anybody can enjoy their life much if both parents work full time and also parent young kids.  It sounds totally overwhelming and impossible to do justice to, much less enjoy, either your job or your kids.[/quote]

How in the world is this helpful? [/quote]

Helpful?  Well, maybe the OP needs to consider that it's not the kids that are the problem or parenting them, it's the lack of time to enjoy it and devote herself to it, with some time also to spend on herself, without the grueling life of balancing work and kids.  I know not everyone can make that happen but many people here on DCUM could easily make it happen but choose not to.  Then they wonder why parenting is so hard and often not enjoyable.[/quote]

Thanks Sanctimommy.[/quote]

Whatever!  Don't want to hear about people who put their careers on hold for a few years to be full time parents to their young kids?  Are you looking for an echo chamber here that only spouts your values and choices?  My husband and I made a lot of sacrifices so that I could stay home with my kids when they were young and neither of us are high earners like so many are here.  Totally worth it.  It sounds like the OP is not having a great life so I tried to give her another point of view to consider, whereas your moronic sanctimommy comment is only meant to insult and demean my viewpoint, that's real helpful.  Shove it![/quote]

You are so nasty and rude.[/quote]

Yes, I get that way when I am insulted for stating a point of view that doesn't coincide with somebody else's.  My comments weren't nasty or rude until I was insulted.[/quote]

If everyone else is wrong but you, maybe look in a mirror. Being nasty is so trashy.[/quote]

That would include you then.  What makes you think everyone else disagrees with me?[/quote]

I'm being clear. You're lashing out because as you stated, others didn't agree with you. Your original post was demeaning and rude.[/quote]

I lashed out at the person who called me sanctimommy which as we all know is a classic DCUM insult to people who do things differently than them.  My original post was not demeaning or rude unless you have blinders on to how other people choose to structure their lives as parents. There is not one way to parent but I was responding to the OP who is very unhappy with her life and wants to run away as a result of the demands of parenting, working and having little time to herself.[/quote]

Your post clearly implies that you think working parents are bad parents and bad workers. Maybe that’s not what you meant to communicate, but it’s what people are responding to. [/quote]

I get that, lots of people apparently bristle at the idea that if someone (the OP) is struggling to balance and possibly even enjoy parenting and working to the point where they hate their life then maybe they should try to find a way to change things.  It might involve putting your career on hold for awhile.  Lots of people here hate that idea.  Perhaps the responders to my comments think anybody who suggests such insanity is calling them a bad parent or a bad worker.  I don't know.  I was responding to a person who clearly defined her parenting and working life as miserable.  What anybody else assumed from that is not in my control.[/quote]

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