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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am so sorry this happened to you.

Is your stepfather your brother’s father?

Were you very clear on what your stepfather did to you and for how long it went on or were you vague?

If you were clear and left no misunderstandings, your brother and his wife either:

1) don’t believe you or
2) believe you and don’t care.

So I think you should stop worrying about how this will affect your relationship with them. They are vile.

The only way you will protect your nieces is to file a police report. Even that may not work, but at least you will have a clear conscious that you tried.[/quote]

Op here. Stepdad is not my brothers father. Stepdad has no biological kids.

I think my brother and SIL believe me but they aren’t willing to disrupt the family relationships based on the information I gave them because that would be more work/discomfort for them.

To be clear-I actually believe my brother and SIL probably watch their kids like hawks around my mom and stepdad. I just think it would help me to hear the steps they are taking because the thought of my stepdad having access to children just makes me sick. I think if they told me the steps that they take, it would help me feel better.

I did learn today that my SIL’s parents went with my brother, SIL, and nieces for the visit to my mom and stepdad (SIL parents and my parents are friends). I don’t know if that was for purely social reasons or if it was part of a larger plan to have more eyes on my nieces.[/quote]

I would talk to the other grandparents. [/quote]

Before she talks to her brother?! OP, please don't do this. Don't feel that you need to disclose this trauma to your SIL's parents. You already got a lot of great language to use when approaching your brother about it, so please consider just doing that.

It's not really clear to me what "steps" you are hoping to hear about. They didn't leave their kids alone with your mother and stepfather, it sounds like. It also sounds like there was additional adult supervision in the form of the other grandparents. What if those are the only answers they have for you about what "steps" they are taking to protect their kids? Would it still be helpful just to know that it's something they're considering? [/quote]

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