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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve worked in residential facilities and majority of the kids there were funded by school districts. Hire an advocate OP and see what your options are. I think it’s extra hard on those kids in residential without any families. At least the ones with parents got visited and to go home on occasion. Those without any parents were essentially raised by rotating strangers with almost no adults in their life for more than a couple years. They also suffered because they got very little money from the state each year for clothes and necessities. Parents can at least provide some comfort just by providing material items, it makes such a difference. At least explore all your options before taking such a drastic measure.[/quote]

+1 I would go into debt to hire a specialized nanny/full-time nurse before taking the kind of step OP is considering. This is so heartbreaking and OP I know you must be suffering to think about this option. I wish we had better, free support for families in this situation. Please take this poster seriously.[/quote]

To what end? Even if you take out a second mortgage for a full time nanny who can work with a special needs nanny, eventually that money runs out and OP is back in the same position. What if OP has other children?[/quote]

We do have other kids. That's much of the problem-- they've been suffering from the current situation, both physically and due to lack of attention.

We simply don't have the money to hire someone for an extended period of time, nor would we be able to get a loan to cover that.[/quote]
I think having other kids will make it more challenging to maintain custody of the other children while terminating your parental rights of one of them. [/quote]

and I would assume it would traumatize the other kids for their sibling to be sent away.[/quote]

OP here. I really don't think that's the case. They talk about wishing their sibling would "go away." I know they probably don't entirely mean it, but it is very hard for them to be around their sibling.[/quote]
DP. I mean maybe them going away would be beneficial to the other kids but as someone who used to volunteer with the foster system I would really be cautious about how you approach this because you could end up having all your kids removed, even if it is temporary. You’re really looking at using a blunt instrument for a very complicated problem.

I can empathize with your situation as my moderate support need child is very difficult as well (although I’m sure less so than yours). I had a friend whose child had a SN au pair that they paid using Medicaid and now her child is in some sort of residential placement. So maybe those are things you can explore. Or maybe you can find an ABA center if you can’t get in-home that could do a lot of after school hours as that would still give the other children some space. [/quote]

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