Reply to Seven year old wants to show her midriff.

Forum Index » Elementary School-Aged Kids

Reply to "Seven year old wants to show her midriff."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Here's my viewpoint . . . it's just some skin, just like your knee or your neck or whatever. Whether it's sexualized is just a function of geography, culture, and time. If you say, eek, no, cover that up, you can only show that when you're X years old, then you are saying a thin strip of stomach skin is sexual. And why is that? Is there actually any rhyme or reason to that other than how you were brought up?

As long as their genitals are covered up and they are adhering to the dress code of wherever we are, then I don't care what my kids wear. Our public schools have done away with dress codes because they were a way of adultifying girls of color and holding girls to a double standard. So yeah, the end result is a lot of short shorts and bare midriffs, but my tweens absolutely do not mean to express themselves in a sexual way at all. They just want to be fashionable and cute.

Now obviously we live in the real world where people have different viewpoints on what is appropriate and what isn't, but that doesn't give other people the right to impose their views on my children unless they are their principals or employers. So I prepare my girls for "those people" . . . if some old man leers at you, just say, "Ew, I'm 11, you're gross." Of course, this has never happened because even disturbed people understand that a 7 year old in a crop top doesn't actually want to be leered at.

A lot of us have been raised in very religious households and have our own hangups about all things sexual, but I think it's on us adults to view those hangups objectively. Are they serving us? Are they serving our kids? Who says one inch of stomach skin is scandalous? Do we want to listen to those people?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics