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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Cab you go step by step. Does he have a doctor at all who can order tests. To decide if you need to explore Crohns or Colitis one of the tests just involves pooping into a "hat" and then you collect a sample. That's easy enough. Have you asked how his poop is? Any blood? Any diarrhea or constipation?

The bloodwork is the perfect start as well. I think for kids there is a numbing agent they can use on the arm. If they have that, would that help him just go and give his blood already?

I would focus on step by step....blood and poop would be a great step in the right direction! Also, will he share his weight? How far below normal BMI is he?

Is he tired?[/quote]

He does not have a doctor. Has not had a wellness check as long as I’ve know him (20+ years). [/quote]

Ok first step get him on a scale. I assume you know his height. Look up how far below normal BMI is.[/quote]

I appreciate the suggestion, but he gets angry with any discussion about his weight. Within the last year he told me he was his high school weight which for a man his age is underweight according to BMI calculators. I do r know what his weight is now. [/quote]

So I think your approach should be try everything to get him to take charge of his health so if the worst happens you can remind yourself you did all you could. It might sound grim but you cannot force care on him. So next step, involve his parents. I assume you already involved his friends. If he takes it out on you you have boundaries and calmly remind him you don't want him to die because of his stubbornness. I also might have a convo with adult protective services and see if there is anything that can be done for a person who is showing signs of a health issue who refuses care. Probably not.

I would look into a therapist for you so you can find the balance between trying all sorts of permutations to get him to wake up and also not driving yourself insane. He is not allowed to take out his anger on you.[/quote]

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