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[quote=Anonymous]	At five, my kid knew what a boyfriend was, his older sister (a teenager) had one. Kid was fine with it and was fine when his sister and the boyfriend broke up too. You didn’t serve anybody well by telling your kid your boyfriend is a “friend”. I’m wondering if when you asked if he wanted a friend to come to the park, he was thinking a kid about his own age. And yes, playing on the playground was just weird, you all should have gone to a zoo or a museum or a nature center or sports, or anything that might start a conversation.  Why didn’t you? Why did you want to bring the boyfriend around after 2 years and why the playground?  Weird, op, just weird.

You are also caring more about your boyfriend then your kid, your kid doesn’t get a say in who you date, the boyfriend can leave at any time, is that the problem? 
Say what you will about how you can do what you feel is best for your kid, you can, but that doesn’t mean you’ll be happy with the results. 
If your kid is good with other adults, teachers and the like, then it’s possible there is something about your boyfriend that he doesn’t like, in which case, pay attention. My problem with people who judge parents on kids’ behavior is parents by definition force kids to go everywhere and in a very real sense force them to be around adults. Kids lack the ability and the language skills to say “You may like him/her, but I don’t, and I’d prefer to not be around them”. 
Also, is it you saying your kid was badly behaved or is it the boyfriend? I am wondering where you got that.

It’s also possible your kid had you all figured out and couldn’t figure out why this “friend” who you have known for years all of a sudden wants to go to the playground. That actually sounds like the plot to a horror movie if you think about, the sort of thing we tell our kids to watch out for. Team kid all the way, op. To the poster who’s boyfriend has teens, they are a mystery. My teen snarled at me about dinner then was thrilled when I gave her a pack of socks. I had bought the socks for her sister who didn’t like them and my teen was like “these are the best socks, comfortable, nice.. you’re an idiot if you don’t like them”. If you don’t like how the teens treat you, say so, but you need to call them out when it happens not report back to the boyfriend “Hey, I don’t like how you spoke to me, I need you to know that”. You also can’t expect adult behavior from teens all the time, if you could, they would be legal adults and there is a reason we still have to take them to medical appointments and sign them out of school even when they probably can do a lot of these things themselves if the laws allowed it. 
 
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