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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, he doesn't like it because he isn't stupid. He knows what's going on. You're dating this man, and you're going to make your son spend time with him over and over, and your son is going to get less of your time and attention because of it. Eventually, you'll want to move in with this guy and make your son live with him, and there's going to be lots of changes and compromises, different rules and family culture, and your son might have to move or even change schools, and have stepsiblings or a new half-sibling, and be forced to spend time with a new extended family that he doesn't actually care about. And it could make things socially awkward with your son's father. What in this is a good change, from your son's perspective?

You need to take off the rose-colored glasses, realize that step-parents are not necessarily a good thing from a child's perspective, and have realistic expectations. And stop treating your son like he doesn't know what's going on. He is VERY correct to be wary of this situation.[/quote]

This is right, especially in the eyes of a seven year old. He doesn't understand an adult need for companionship/romance/sex. He doesn't understand a desire to have someone potentially to grow old with. He might miss his father. He might wish his parents were still together. He might be realizing that this guy is going to take your attention, might think he's trying to replace the father, might realize that this means that the divorce is for good. The fact that you haven't tried to get to the bottom of this suggests you aren't handling this properly and might be too self-involved.[/quote]

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