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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can understand if both of you want it and money is no issue but it shouldn't be a supposed must've, making men feel ashamed for not being able to offer one and women to not being able to receive one and others to comment on size or fortune.[/quote]

PP who wanted to buy it…

How is that any different than any other discretionary item?  All sorts of status symbols.  No one is “making” men feel ashamed. Men who don’t feel ashamed and men who do all live in the same universe.  It’s up to the individual not to buy into those pressures.  I didn’t buy one to avoid shame.  My wife didn’t want one to avoid shame.  We briefly discussed a sapphire, my wife said she’d prefer a diamond.  And that was that.  It’s not a big diamond.. like 1.5ct or something.  There’s always one bigger - and I don’t feel any shame.  I don’t think my wife does either.

If men or women are going to feel shame over a diamond they’re going to have a miserable life whether they buy that or not.  The next thing to feel shame over will be the size of their house, the brand of their car, clothing brands, airline fare class.  Individuals have to make the choice to engage in that sort of comparison or not.  But you can refuse to get involved in that and still buy a diamond engagement ring.  Just like you can refuse to get involved in it and still buy a Mercedes because you just really like it.[/quote]

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