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[quote=Cloud]I have two but if I only had one I would be able to do so much more with my oldest.  I think about trips to Disney, NYC, and truly being focused on her all the time vs. attending to, feeding, bathing, playing with and consoling another child.  I don't regret having two but it makes me realize I want to be able to live better with my 2 kids than have a third.

I can imagine trips to Europe, cruises, and all sorts of enriching experiences- which would be nearly impossible with too many kids.  I sometimes wonder how parents of 3+ kids reconcile that... do they just assume their kids will travel and see the world when they are older and moved out on their own?  I know a number of families with >3 kids and they can't afford to go anywhere or they need to drive because they can't afford plane fares.

The more kids you have the harder it is to get people to babysit for you, particularly overnights or a week or weekend for you and DH to go on vacation together every once in a while.  There is more time and energy for keeping your marriage happy with fewer children.  And fewer financial constraints should add to marital satisfaction as well.

You can eat better quality food rather than stretching your grocery budget for another mouth to feed,  you can fit your whole family into one hotel room.  Think about emergencies... less crap to haul around, fewer mouths to feed.

I used to want a third but I am beginning to prefer this idea of "living lighter".... there is absolutely some selfishness to it but it's my LIFE.  Not something minor like deciding whether to have a second tea at breakfast, know what I mean?[/quote]

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