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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When my child asks me why she doesn't have a sibling, I'm going to say, "We're happy with our family the way it is."  Which is the core truth, regardless of any adult concerns about having enough resources, whether financial or emotional.[/quote]

Just tell her you stopped at perfection![/quote]

Agree. I always feel a little sad when I hear mothers say that even with the child(ren) they have, they don't feel that their families are "complete." it's like saying that their existing children are somehow deficient--not a great message to send to your kids.[/quote]

Most of the women I know with multiple children have them for themselves.  So feeling incomplete is their issue.  They need to surround themselves with children in order to give them a purpose.  Oftentimes, I hear them talk about how exhausted they are shuffling kids around, packing lunches, running errands with all in tow, etc.  However, at the same time it's a badge of honor.  One even corrected me when I mistakenly said she had three kids instead of four.

I am an older mother of  two and am an only child.  The first one was not planned; the second was.  no interventions - So the fear of being infertile never stopped me from waiting.  And when I had the first, I waited 4 years until I had the second, as I would have been completely fine with an only.

So most of us have kids for selfish reasons.  We want to fill a void, for example, or we want to carry on a name so we keep trying for that boy!  At some point, however, women have to realize that larger families are not always tight.  With onlies, however, you can create some very strong bonds.  [/quote]

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