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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Fwiw, I think it took my DHs family years to realize that I had family money. It's not something you'd really know about me otherwise in my 20s, I worked hard and mostly spent the money I earned. But as the years went on and we were able to buy a house, then renovate that house, then send my DH to law school, then take a year off work when the babies were born... I think they realize it now.

So I guess I'm just sharing this to say that you really don't know her fiancé's financial situation, even if you know his salary. [/quote]

This. We paid for our own wedding because we didn’t want my parents to feel embarrassed about the financial discrepancies between families or try to “keep up with the Jones” and spend more money that is practical for them. My in-laws gave us a new car for a wedding present. My parents gave us a vacuum cleaner. We never mentioned the car and my parents assumed we bought it ourselves. My parents know my in-laws pay for our vacations with them, but I don’t think my parents realize my husband’s family gives us money. I think it would make my mom feel bad or paranoid we love her less (we don’t). I think my dad would get weird and think I should be more generous with them. Money is complicated and it makes people behave poorly. It’s best to have boundaries. [/quote]

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