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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would be done. You should not have to walk on eggshells or avoid absurd/unreasonable  landmines. Friend A is equally insufferable. Life is too short.

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Op here. Thanks. I feel pretty much done, although I don't want to add to the situation by ghosting or otherwise extricating myself blatantly. All the responses on here have helped me look at this in a different way. A pp called me out on my strong language (ambush, I think), which reveals that I have issues, too. I think friend B felt judged by me, even though she didn't tell me that, and I understand how that would hurt. The fact that I'm ready to ditch 2 new friends over this situation says a lot about me. I may give this more time to see how it goes in the future, but only with a larger group.[/quote]

You sound mature, OP, and you are doing self-reflection that shows you're the bigger person here. It's generous of you be understanding about how B might have felt hurt. Whatever you decide, whether it's ending both friendships or only one, or moving on as friends after talking this out or whatever -- you are going to be OK, because you're able to step back and be a bit objective in ways it seems B can't. Many of us can't. Don't overthink this situation or let it take up too much of your mental real estate, though. A larger group might be a good idea IF you want to keep A and B as friends (or more, friendly acquaintances). [/quote]

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