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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d be calling divorce lawyers and making copies of all of our bank records, taxes, important documents, etc. He sounds like an abusive ass. [/quote]

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OP here. I'm surprised that so many posters think that I should divorce. It is difficult when our lives are so entangled, and we have a young child. I'd much rather try to make it work [/quote]

Then learn to eat your husband’s crap, because he is very unlikely to change.

And accept the fact that by eating your husband’s crap, you are teaching your son, the best thing that ever happened to you, that it is okay for women to be treated like crap by their husbands. And then he is likely to grow up to be a man who treats women like crap.

I can only speak from experience. My father treated my mother like crap, my brother started practicing the skills with me, his little sister, in childhood and then carried on to be a mean and nasty partner to multiple girlfriends and wives. Now he’s teaching his son and daughter the same lessons. This is how misogyny is perpetuated.[/quote]

This is why you should never ask for advice here OP. So many angry divorced women. My marriage didn't work out, so you can't have yours either attitude. [/quote]

I’m not an angry divorced woman. I am a woman who saw from the very start how badly marriage could turn out, and very often did, and thus resisted the urge to get into one.

Now at 52 I can count on one hand without needing all the digits the number of marriages I’ve seen over the decades that I envied in any respect. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve been a shoulder to friends and family members as they suffered disrespect and abuse from their husbands, whether the walking on eggshells or tolerating a man-child or doing all that for decades only to be unceremoniously dumped for a younger hotter version in midlife. And that’s just my personal observations in my personal life - don’t get me started on what I saw in the years I spent in family law, domestic violence advocacy and the criminal justice system.

I’m not saying it’s a picnic being single, and I definitely hold anger towards the largely misogynistic society that leaves many women who want families to deal with so many ugly realities - it doesn’t have to be this way, it is not the natural order of things.

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