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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I only have 1 child, a 16 yo son.  He rarely comes from his room other than to eat and say good morning.  I would like him to spend some time out of his room other than eating meals.  Is this normal?  How do you engage a son at this age?

He does volunteer work that he enjoys about 12 hours a week; plays soccer twice a week; has an online tutor; is attending hour long sessions on how to prepare for college (which I signed him up for) so he's not inside  and playing games and mindless youtube videos all day.  He does not see any friends live, but texts and snapchats them daily too.  We watch a show together a few nights a week, at my suggestion.

Will someone please reality check me?  What is reasonable? 
Do you have expectations that your teen not be in room all day?
If so, what do you expect?  How do you engage?

TIA.

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OP, your son who is "in his room all day":
-volunteers 12 hrs/week
-plays soccer twice a week
-has an online tutor
-attends hour-long college prep classes 
-watches a show with you multiple times a week

(Sincerely) what would you like him to do? [/quote]

Let's look at the numbers...
There are 168 hours in a week. Let's say he sleeps for 9 hours per day, so subtract 64 hours per week. We're now at 105 hours of time per week.
- volunteers 12 hours
- soccer 4 or 5 hours ?
- online tutor 3 or 4 hours ?
- college prep classes 1 hour per week ?
- watches some shows with parent 5 hours ?
- eats with family 8 to 10 hours? 
So 37 hours of "things" in total. So 105 available hours minus 37 is 68 remaining hours.

Basically, he is in his room for about 10 hours every day. Yeah, that seems concerning to me. [/quote]

You've left out showering dressing, meals, using the toilet, and a lot of other normal activities everyone does.[/quote]

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