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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with pp ^^^. The truth works just fine here. Tell them that you normally love for them to stay with you, but that you'll be coming home from a trip on Sunday and that [b]you need to house to be in a certain condition to get through the week[/b]. With only a few hours to unpack and detox from the travel, you won't be able to get ready for work and also take care of the inevitable wear and tear that comes with having guests. Then tell them that you'd love to have them some other time, but that this one visit doesn't work.[/quote]This is good advice! Really, it is about the stress of getting ready for the week to come. That's a legitimate concern.[/quote]

How flippin' fragile are you people, if your house being messy stresses you out so much that you can't get through the week?  Good grief.  [/quote]

Not the OP but when we get back from vacation we have enough to do with vacation laundry, grocery shopping, etc. and cleaning up after house guests would not be something I would want to deal with at all.  We often come back late and have work/school/camp the next morning so yes, extra tasks would not be welcome.[/quote]

I get that - but extra tasks would not be welcome is a far cry from being so stressed out by it that you won't be able to get through the week.  I'm in the camp that says let them stay, but let them know your expectations.  Then, if you come back to a shithole, they don't come any more.  [/quote]

Um, I think it's fair to say that it can be pretty stressful to come home late from a trip, have laundry and grocery shopping to do, all while getting kids ready for school and bed and you ready for work in just a few hours, especially after you spent the afternoon traveling and dealing with "mom, he just touched me" and "are we there yet?" scenarios. Add to that a house wrecked from visitors? Ha! Maybe you are supermom and things like this don't bother you and butterflies and fairies clean up your pantry, but I have no such pretensions. I can't do it all and I'm ok admitting it. Plus, you are the one who said it would be so stressful "you can't get through the week." I said it was about the stress of "getting ready for the week." In my family, people understand this stuff. I would say no, OP. And stand your ground. If they argue, just repeat that they are welcome to come another time.[/quote]

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