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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is his IQ profile pretty evenly distributed, or is he significantly higher in one area?  Is his achievement level consistent with the IQ level?  Does he seem socially well adjusted?

If his profile is uneven, then the easiest thing would be to keep him in a regular school, but supplement in the area of strength.

If he has a more even profile, I'd try to figure out why he doesn't seem to think he's bored.  Is he just a very easygoing kid?  Is he bored, but doesn't realize that school could be much more engaging and much faster paced?  Is he happy to finish his work quickly, and then pursue one of his own interests?

If his achievement level is at best that of a normal smart kid, I'd look into additional evaluations.  Very high IQ can mask LDs.

If he's struggling socially, keeping him in a normal school among normal kids will not help.  He'll continue to feel like he doesn't fit in.

If he's sailing through school with no effort, then you need to make sure he's developing study skills and resilience from some activity.  Having no study skills and expecting everything to be easy will eventually catch up with him and cause problems.  [/quote]

He doesn't have a lot of unevenness.  His math and spatial scores are higher than his language and literacy scores, but not to the point that it points to an LD, and it's a little bit of a chicken and an egg thing because he seeks out more math and spatial kinds of things, than he does language and literacy kinds of things, so it seems logical that those skills would be more developed.

I think he goes to school each day with plans for things to occupy himself with during downtime, so he not only doesn't mind when the work is easy, he's kind of excited because it means he can do his own thing.  He is very bad at being still and not being busy, but he's very good at figuring out interesting things to keep himself busy, and working those things into his schedule.

Socially he seems fine.  [/quote]

TBH, that combination of aptitude, capacity, and personality sounds remarkably like my DD. And my DH. And maybe me?

We haven’t been tested, but our brains learn, process, and retain information remarkably fast, automatically synthesize and apply what we know in new ways, and keep seeking more inputs without exhausting themselves. And all three of us find SO many different things interesting - we’ve always been curious snd self-motivated that way and never seem to get bored. It’s great!!! 🎉

So please don’t let people scare you into thinking that your DS must have sone hidden “issue” or undiscovered condition like anxiety, social disconnection etc. It’s possible, and if it turns out to be true at sone point, I have no doubt you’ll see it coming from a mile away. (You seem wonderfully attuned and engaged - not the type to ever be blindsided, I’d guess. 😊)

Keep in mind that the larger world includes ALL types, and if we live big, curious lives, we’ll always be exposing ourselves to new variations and people. FWIW, in high school, I didn’t feel like there was anyone quite like me, but it was fun and  “good enough” socially. Then I went to college and was thrilled to meet so many people who immediately resonated!

Not the entire college class, of course (lots of variation, even in that carefully selected cohort). But many kids who were off the charts brilliant, socially well-adjusted, and with seemingly endless interests and the ability to pursue them all at once, in balance. DH experienced the same, and our college friends continue to blow my mind that way - wonderfully brilliant and well-adjusted adults doing a wide range of things with their lives (and evolving at different stages - no one seems static).

From what you’ve shared, that sounds like your DS. If so, enjoy the ride! And try not to let others get in your head, worrying about what you might be “missing”. Try to keep living in the present - enjoying whatever phase you all are in, and trusting that the two of you will notice and navigate whatever challenges arise. [/quote]

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