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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I actually saw the host mom at the grocery store this morning.  We chatted briefly (she was coming out as I was going in) and only really said something like hello, how are you.

I think I am reaching the conclusion that I am not considered a full member of the neighborhood group as I thought I was - at least not by this mom.  I think she sees me as someone who shows up and is there, and therefore of course she'll make conversation with me, but she doesn't see me as a friend (and I guess she sees the others as friends).  Maybe I come across as trying too hard?  It's funny, because out of all of the moms in the group, i feel like she and I might have the most in common because we are both really into athletics, and played the same sport in college.

Anyway, thanks for the posts everyone.[/quote]

OP, I know you want to put this all behind you and just move on, but your post here made me think of something.   You don't know what you don't know.  In other words, it may be that this host-mom calls and specifically invites other moms to the park each day (or when she is going) and it's not as casual as you think it is.  And actually, maybe some of the other mothers do the same thing.  She might like you enough and think you're nice, but in her head, you are not part of this invisible "inner circle" that she creates when she goes to the park.  If you happen to be there when they are there, great.  You're nice, they're nice back and you all strike up a conversation.  But, there might be 3 or 4 of them that specifically call each other when they go to the park.

As a result, she called those moms and invited them to the b-day party - and thought nothing about excluding you because in her head, she calls them all the other times and when you see them there, you're not upset you weren't "invited" for other playdate/park get-togethers so why would this be any different.

I dunno - it just a thought. [/quote]

this sounds like a very real possibility.  are you close with any of the other moms in the group (i.e. close enough that you speak to them off the playground, independently)?  if so, you could ask if there is some independent network among them that goes beyond just bumping into each other at the playground?[/quote]

this makes sense.  especially since the host mom acted like nothing was wrong when she saw you and only said a few words at the grocery store to you.  [/quote]

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