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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The buck stops with you. If your three year old has a meltdown or misbehaves it is your fault. Have realistic expectations and meditate on what YOU need to change to set them up for success. If my kids make a mistake it's my mistake. [/quote]

Disagree and I think this would make some parents overly anxious to the point that it would inhibit good parenting. While I do definitely think parents are largely responsible for teaching their children how to manage emotions and should be setting their kids up for success, I would see a 3y/o misbehaving in an age appropriate way as no one’s fault. It’s an opportunity for learning but I wouldn’t view the parent or child as bad or assign fault. [/quote]

Behavior indicates a need. A three year old misbehaving is indicating a need, a need the parent can meet. I'm not saying there shouldn't be misbehavior, quite the opposite. Misbehavior is an opportunity to learn and I'm the one responsible for teaching them. [/quote]

That's not what you said before though. You said "If your three year old has a meltdown or misbehaves it is your fault."

I agree a 3 yr old who is melting down has an unmet need, but a major reason 3 yr olds are prone to melt downs is that they are at an age of development where they don't always understand what their needs are, or how to communicate them. That's why the age is challenging and requires a lot of empathy and patience. You will not always be able to figure out what they need, and sometimes you just have to help them through it. But they might "misbehave" in the meantime. It's normal, and not evidence of your failure as a parent.[/quote]

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