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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The buck stops with you. If your three year old has a meltdown or misbehaves it is your fault. Have realistic expectations and meditate on what YOU need to change to set them up for success. If my kids make a mistake it's my mistake. [/quote]

Disagree and I think this would make some parents overly anxious to the point that it would inhibit good parenting. While I do definitely think parents are largely responsible for teaching their children how to manage emotions and should be setting their kids up for success, I would see a 3y/o misbehaving in an age appropriate way as no one’s fault. It’s an opportunity for learning but I wouldn’t view the parent or child as bad or assign fault. [/quote]

Behavior indicates a need. A three year old misbehaving is indicating a need, a need the parent can meet. I'm not saying there shouldn't be misbehavior, quite the opposite. Misbehavior is an opportunity to learn and I'm the one responsible for teaching them. [/quote]

I'm sure a 3 yr old thinks I can meet the need. But that doesn't mean I will. She may think she needs to wear flip flops and a bathing suit to school when it's 10 below. And while maybe I could allow her to do that, to meet the "need", I'm not crazy and neglectful and won't allow it. She can have a choice of more suitable attire and a tantrum won't be changing my mind.[/quote]

Are you being purposely obtuse? Her need here isn't to wear flip flops. It's to be told no she has to wear appropriate clothing for the weather. You are meeting her need by saying no. That's the point. [/quote]

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