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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I had an emotional discussion a few months ago and he set out the case for why he thinks 3 would be terrible, but then told me that if I really want 3 (like I would regret it forever if we

[quote=Anonymous]I still get sad or jealous when I see others with 3 kids (I feel like it's almost a status symbol among professional women now), but I'm also anxious, high strung, hated being pregnant etc.[/quote]
How do you feel that having 3 kids is a status symbol for professional women? Is it because it proves that the women can juggle 3 kids along with a demanding career? Or is it more about the families being able to afford 3 kids (and 3 college tuitions)? I ask because I have a professional career now, but I think I would quit to be a SAHM if I were to go for a 3rd. Mostly for my sanity. I don't know how families manage 3 kids and 2 full-time jobs, unless the grandparents are living in the same house.
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I think it's mostly the first, at least in my circles (professional women with advanced degrees- not saying we're better than others just that it's probably different for example for Catholic families with SAHMs.) But it may just be in my mind.... like "oh look, I am a doctor/lawyer/professor and I can do it all, including have 3 kids!" Sometimes as a bit of a complaint like "oh, it's so hard for me with my 5 kids, we don't make nearly enough money and I didn't get enough leave for it," but in my mind it gets translated as "look at me, am I not the greatest, I'm both a high-powered career woman and a self-sacrificing mom! I also do all the Girl Scouts activities!"[/quote]

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