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I notice you didn't answer any of these questions.  Enough with the platitudes - how about some specifics?

"What decisions should men make? What decisions should women make? Is it first-come, first served, or are there clear distinctions in their areas of responsibility? Is there any overlap?

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Surely you realize it is not that simple. Decisions are not made based upon gender, they are made based upon circumstances in that relationship.

However, if you wish to take it to that extreme- should a husband decide if his wife is or is not going to give birth with medication? That would be no. That is not his place. 
Likewise, should a wife decide that her husband is going to have a vasectomy? Umm probably not. While opinions on both subjects should be welcomed and discussions are fine, but when it comes down to it, one person should make the decision.

Less extreme examples would be what the kids eat for lunch. Who should decide? Well, who is making the lunch? Who has to deal with the effects of eating the lunch? There is not a one size fits all process. But there are circumstances when one or the other needs to sit down, listen, and be quiet.

In many cases, women need to relax and stop treating men like they are bumbling idiots who can't accomplish anything but bringing a paycheck, drinking beer, and ejaculating. But when you treat men like that, that is how they start to act.

Do you help your wife around the house without her having to ask?

My points really aren't that difficult to understand, but I do admit that it's hard to implement. We live in a "me, me, me, I am the boss" society instead of one where kindness, selflessness, and compassion are king. And unfortunately because of society's history of treating women poorly, in many cases they are trying to overcompensate by being crass, contentious, and unpleasant souls.

But keep doing it your way. It's really working out for the state of marriages. Or you could change your attitude.

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