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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, there are many anti-anxiety meds that are safe while pregnant and breastfeeding. You should discuss with your doctor. [/quote]

All this armchair diagnosis is obnoxious.  Wanting to have some reasonable rules in place to protect her baby from illness does not mean OP needs medication[/quote]

I made an anxiety comment but not that one. I really don’t mean it as an accusation or a criticism.  I actually can really relate to it and how I felt with my first (I had some rules I would laugh at now). But I stand by believing that OP sounds like it’s not being well-managed. [/quote]

Another PP here who made an anxiety comment but not the one quoted here. This is a difficult area to tread because many people don't take women's fears seriously and that is infantilizing and disrespectful. But many women also struggle with PPD and PPA pre and post partum and it goes untreated because no one wants to speak up. The way OP writes her OP is what makes me think she should get help,[b] its long, rambling, kind of catastrophizing[/b] and it's about a future event that hasn't even happened yet.

And I think it sounds like she's struggling because this is what MY thoughts sounded like when I was struggling during that period. It is important to get a handle on whether you sound a little off when you first have a baby because untreated these issues can really make new motherhood absolutely miserable.

Good luck OP I'm not trying to criticize you by saying you sound like you might need to talk to your doctors about this, just wish someone had done that for me. [/quote]

Shes responding to what the ILs are saying they want to do. [/quote]

Both things can be true. I had wildly overstepping in-laws (I could write a book) but also was struggling with anxiety during and after pregnancy. [/quote]

Ever think that maybe the anxiety is from having to constantly navigate overstepping in-laws? Boundaries can help with anxiety and I think OP is trying to get a check for whether she is out of the norm for wanting to not have to "host" ILs after giving birth and navigating being a new mom. I would think she knows better than anyone one this board whether they are the helpful type or the non-helpful type. Anxiety can also stem from trying to navigate people's reactions to expressing your feelings/wishes especially if they arent consistent.

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I agree with this. It really describes my post partum experience to a tee. Actually my pregnancy as well. I was expressing basic needs and trying to set basic boundaries, and people would act like I hadn't even spoken or like I could not be taken seriously ("it's just hormones"). And that absolutely led to anxiety because I'd get so stressed just thinking about how I could not seem to get people to hear what I was saying or understand that I wasn't just some silly woman being unreasonable but a person who was in a particularly vulnerable and high-needs time in my life. [/quote]

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